What is the truth here? What stands the test of time? Only one thing does. This one thing is never changing. It is not a feeling. It is a knowing.
Feelings are fleeting. They come and go in the moment. Yet feelings are truth when you know that they will leave you and be replaced with others. All of this means that nothing is bad. Accept everything. Accept your feelings. Accept who you are and what you do. They are all where they are supposed to be inside of you. Truth is not a fixed idea. It is an ongoing acceptance. You have truth now. You always did and always will. Accept yourself.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about arguing, it’s that it is just for fun. It can’t be anything else. It can only be fun that we use words to disagree with one another. So don’t regard words so highly. Don’t take them so seriously. They are designed to affect your ego. They were made to separate your world. When you use them to fight with someone, it can only be funny. What we say to each other is so untrue. It is so based in unreality that it is hilarious. Nothing that anyone can say can ever be close to the truth. We are just spewing mirrors at each other. Whether we like it or not, we get exactly what we put out. We may think our hateful outbursts and fighting are justified but you can can see that your opponent uses your same exact rhetoric in the opposite. You are not in a battle of truth, you are in a battle for life and death. For the protection of your ego. There is no death really. You fight only for what is unreal.
When you fight, have fun. Don’t take it too seriously. Don’t let things get to you so ingrained into you. Words and emotions cannot take away from you. You are never less than what you were. Only more. The more self reflection, the better. You will see that you’ve done good. You will make light of your situations. You will life more fully. You will fight more graciously. More powerfully. No one can take away from you. No one can call you names and get away with it. There’s nothing for them to grasp. You are too in love. You are too full. You are so strong. Don’t ever change.